We have grown up in a world where genitals are armored. Children are taught not to touch their genitals and to hide them. Masturbation is taboo and premarital sex is a sin. We have very strong moral decency that sex is shameful and sacrilegious. However, this is not a question of what is moral or shameful, it is about understanding what our bodies need and what does not. A deep-seated fear of sex can cause imbalances in the body, and many people are unable to come to terms with their bodies. Since time immemorial, Taoist masters, tantric masters, and shamanic healers have emphasized the importance of sexual indulgence. The basic idea behind sexual healing is that a person’s happiness is a state that can be achieved through one’s own means. The body can heal itself and fitness comes from within.
TOI Health got in touch with Teal Swan, an international spiritual catalyst, to understand her views on the idea of acknowledging one’s sexuality and how sex can be used for healing. Below are excerpts from a candid email conversation with Thiel.
What is sexual healing?
Sexual healing is the idea that sex and/or sexual energy can be used for healing, as well as the idea that the sexuality itself in our relationships can be healed. The process of sexual healing is similar to the process of rehabilitation, assuming that it is a process of healing the relationship with sex and sexuality itself.
What is the sexual healing process?
It will be an individual process because everyone’s trauma is different. You can’t help someone with a porn addiction recover sexually the same way you can help someone recover sexually from a complete aversion to sex. In general, people find new ways to be positive about sex, revisit and resolve past sexual traumas that contributed to their poor relationship with sex, build relationships with their bodies, and overcome control and loss of control. We need to change our thinking about. A neat summary of this process is that a person needs to reassert their true sexuality.
How long does the process take?
This is an unanswered question. It completely depends on the individual and the disease they are suffering from.
Does it heal both partners or only one?
we live in one universe. You can’t exist in a bubble. Every time you heal, you add healing to the world. It is very difficult for one partner to begin the process of sexual healing and for the partner to remain in unhealthy sexual patterns. Often, it acts as a catalyst for the other person to also enter into a process of sexual healing or go elsewhere to find another dysfunctional sexual relationship.
Does healing require two partners or can it be achieved through masturbation alone?
Sexual healing includes both. Developing a relationship with your sexuality that is separate from everyone else through masturbation is incredibly therapeutic. But we can’t stop there. Most sexual assaults occur in connection with relationships with others. Aspects of trauma caused by relationships can only be healed within relationships. So to ask this question is to ask if you can overcome your fear of drowning by never going near water again, and the answer is no. Their relationship with water can only be repaired by their eventual interaction with water and successful interaction.
What do you think about multiple sex partners? Is it too far out of line in our society (even more so in India)?
I’m not saying it’s “good or bad” per se. But generally, our decision to have multiple sexual partners comes from fear of intimacy, fear of commitment, and fear of lack of freedom. It’s a kind of rebellion. With the exception of a few scenarios, most people find it healthy to build that relationship with one person, establish trust with one person, and use the stability of that level of intimacy to expand. Building sexual relationships, especially sexual healing, will be more successful. their sexuality.
What do you think about Osho’s ideas about sex, that we as a society are afraid of sex and that the more sexual a person is, the more intelligent he is?
Osho is one of my favorite new thought leaders of all time. I agree that around the world our relationship with sex is dysfunctional. We receive different messages about it all day, every day. We fear sex and use sex to control each other, and it is one of the greatest dysfunctions in humanity. We need to wake up on the subject of sexuality. Like him, I accept sexuality as an important part of spiritual practice, not as something detrimental to it.
However, I also believe that we all have a “shadow.” I believe that “relationships” were one of the shadow areas of his Oshos life. When it comes to self-liberation, I think he is definitely the number one teacher to listen to. But when it comes to building healthy, committed relationships, I don’t think he’s a teacher to listen to, and many of his ideas about sexuality fall in line with that. I do not agree that the more sexual a person is, the more intelligent he is. There are highly sexual beings who are doing incredibly unconscious things that are damaging to life on Earth. I think Osho was here to free people from their prison, their comfort zone. But anything extreme is dysfunctional.
TOI Health got in touch with Teal Swan, an international spiritual catalyst, to understand her views on the idea of acknowledging one’s sexuality and how sex can be used for healing. Below are excerpts from a candid email conversation with Thiel.
What is sexual healing?
Sexual healing is the idea that sex and/or sexual energy can be used for healing, as well as the idea that the sexuality itself in our relationships can be healed. The process of sexual healing is similar to the process of rehabilitation, assuming that it is a process of healing the relationship with sex and sexuality itself.
What is the sexual healing process?
It will be an individual process because everyone’s trauma is different. You can’t help someone with a porn addiction recover sexually the same way you can help someone recover sexually from a complete aversion to sex. In general, people find new ways to be positive about sex, revisit and resolve past sexual traumas that contributed to their poor relationship with sex, build relationships with their bodies, and overcome control and loss of control. We need to change our thinking about. A neat summary of this process is that a person needs to reassert their true sexuality.
How long does the process take?
Expanding
Does it heal both partners or only one?
we live in one universe. You can’t exist in a bubble. Every time you heal, you add healing to the world. It is very difficult for one partner to begin the process of sexual healing and for the partner to remain in unhealthy sexual patterns. Often, it acts as a catalyst for the other person to also enter into a process of sexual healing or go elsewhere to find another dysfunctional sexual relationship.
Does healing require two partners or can it be achieved through masturbation alone?
Sexual healing includes both. Developing a relationship with your sexuality that is separate from everyone else through masturbation is incredibly therapeutic. But we can’t stop there. Most sexual assaults occur in connection with relationships with others. Aspects of trauma caused by relationships can only be healed within relationships. So to ask this question is to ask if you can overcome your fear of drowning by never going near water again, and the answer is no. Their relationship with water can only be repaired by their eventual interaction with water and successful interaction.
What do you think about multiple sex partners? Is it too far out of line in our society (even more so in India)?
I’m not saying it’s “good or bad” per se. But generally, our decision to have multiple sexual partners comes from fear of intimacy, fear of commitment, and fear of lack of freedom. It’s a kind of rebellion. With the exception of a few scenarios, most people find it healthy to build that relationship with one person, establish trust with one person, and use the stability of that level of intimacy to expand. Building sexual relationships, especially sexual healing, will be more successful. their sexuality.
What do you think about Osho’s ideas about sex, that we as a society are afraid of sex and that the more sexual a person is, the more intelligent he is?
Osho is one of my favorite new thought leaders of all time. I agree that around the world our relationship with sex is dysfunctional. We receive different messages about it all day, every day. We fear sex and use sex to control each other, and it is one of the greatest dysfunctions in humanity. We need to wake up on the subject of sexuality. Like him, I accept sexuality as an important part of spiritual practice, not as something detrimental to it.
However, I also believe that we all have a “shadow.” I believe that “relationships” were one of the shadow areas of his Oshos life. When it comes to self-liberation, I think he is definitely the number one teacher to listen to. But when it comes to building healthy, committed relationships, I don’t think he’s a teacher to listen to, and many of his ideas about sexuality fall in line with that. I do not agree that the more sexual a person is, the more intelligent he is. There are highly sexual beings who are doing incredibly unconscious things that are damaging to life on Earth. I think Osho was here to free people from their prison, their comfort zone. But anything extreme is dysfunctional.
