10 Signs He’s Not Ready for Marriage

It may not be your fault that he is reluctant to get married. For example, if he can’t decide what career path he wants to follow or where he wants to live, he probably doesn’t understand himself well enough to settle down yet.

In 10 years he wants to be a CEO with a huge yacht and a leash-trained lion named Simba. wonderful. When he’s thinking out loud about these plans, is he making assumptions about how you’ll fit in? If he’s talking about moving to São Paulo, ask if he likes the warmer climate Or? Because these things are important. It’s a bad sign if he always talks about his future self as a loner, even if he’s just joking. Unless, of course, you’re a lion on a leash, which makes for some very weird role-playing.

Again, if he has not yet adjusted to your dreams, then he is not thinking about a life with you yet. It’s not like he needs to explain every little detail, but if he’s not interested in your future, it might be because he doesn’t see himself in it.

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Relationships require maintenance and fights occur. But when you get into an argument, does he immediately start a violent fight or calmly try to explain why something bothers him? Does he talk to you when he’s upset or completely emotionally shut down? If he loses his cool over a small disagreement, it’s a sign of a bigger conflict that could arise in the future. Not a good sign for.

If only you rolled your eyes a little at the cheesiest, most clichéd scene (he stopped the wedding at the altar?! He rushed through airport security). just to kiss her?!), don’t read too much into it. But if he moans, howls, and cries the entire time he’s in pain; titanic, he is sending a message. You are not his rose.

If he doesn’t want to attend your parents’ anniversary party with you, he probably doesn’t consider them as future in-laws.

Let’s say you’re moving in together and need a new kitchen table, headboard, Vitamix, and pink flamingos for the lawn. It makes sense to split it up, right? Of course, if you are sure that you will never contest ownership. If he clearly declares who owns what (“If you buy the headboard, I’ll take care of the flamingo..”), in which case he may not feel that confidence yet.

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Accepting yourself means accepting those around you. If he’s not willing to do it, or at least try, he’s not ready to take it seriously.

Invariably, someone will make an awkward joke about you being a couple or ask outright when you’re getting married. If he deflects with innocuous words (“She won’t put up with my crap”) and if he takes a firm stand (“No way, we’re 100% off by the time we start thinking It takes ten thousand years)” is different. that. “). Similarly, if he jokes about a breakup or about other attractive women he wants to sleep with, despite the fact that it makes you uncomfortable, he is not subject to marriage.

Does he not like that you wear a lot of pink? Or take time off from work to hang out with friends? Or does he spend $60 on a blowout (to be honest, I’m not even entirely sure what a blowout is)? If he constantly expresses dissatisfaction with small things, it means that he is not ready to tackle big things. You can do better.

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