It’s similar to Airplane Etiquette There are a lot of rules that people don’t always follow. wedding Guest habits and mistakes you should never make! We gather to celebrate our loved ones, have great food and enjoy a wonderful dinner. CocktailBut it’s the attention-seeking behaviors that really ruin things. While there are probably 30+ annoying behaviors that fail every time, we’ll focus on the top 8 that drive us crazy.
We sat down with Genevieve “Jenny” Dreizen (Co-Founder and COO) to investigate these abusive practices. Fresh Start RegistryShe’s a modern-day etiquette expert and former wedding officiant, so trust her when it comes to wedding guest dos and don’ts. Want to know which embarrassing wedding guest habits are on the list? Keep scrolling for all the not-so-fun habits that frustrate newlyweds and other guests!
Annoying habits of wedding guests
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Forgetting (or refusing to reply)
We’ve all heard the story of a guest who doesn’t respond to a wedding. Even worse is the guest who doesn’t respond and then brings along someone else who just shows up out of nowhere. In Driesen’s opinion, this is a huge nuisance. “Bringing an uninvited plus-one (or even worse, plus multiple) tops the list of unacceptable wedding guest habits. Weddings are expensive, well-planned events, and showing up with someone who isn’t invited and isn’t included in the food or chair count is a big no-no,” she says.
One way brides and grooms can avoid this problem is to be firm in their expectations of a response. The Gilchrist Collection To tell,”Be strict when creating your guest list No response means no food, no table settings, no wedding favors and no consideration given to arranging catering for the evening.”
Let’s say you’ve replied to a couple’s wedding but find out you can’t make it for personal reasons. They’ll be understanding, but you should let them know in advance. “Again, weddings are meticulously planned and exhaustingly executed events, so a reply isn’t just a suggestion or a nice-to-have — it’s a necessary component to properly plan a wedding. Additionally, if you can’t attend at the last minute, let the couple or their representative know,” says Dreisen.
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Being rude to other guests and wait staff
Slap in the face… Obviously, this shouldn’t happen, but we know it does happen.
Driesen explains, “I think the worst thing you can do is be rude to other guests or people working at the wedding. As a professional wedding officiant, I once had a couple’s very mean aunt come up to me and chastise me for the couple who hired me. She bombarded me with questions about why I chose her for their wedding, made rude comments about their ceremony choices, and just generally left me feeling bad. Respect the couple’s choices for their wedding and save your nastiness for the car ride home.”
“Being rude or combative towards other guests or wait staff is also a no-no for wedding guests,” says Dreisen. “Treating people with respect and kindness is always in style, and being rude, cruel or abusive is always a no-no, whether you’ve been drinking or not.”
This goes back to being kind. everyone At weddings, whether we’re guests or hired by the couple to help create a beautiful experience, we may simply be following this age-old rule: “If you can’t say something nice, don’t say anything at all.”
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Wearing a white dress that takes away the bride’s radiance
This isn’t the “no white after Labor Day” rule that many of us grew up hearing. Jenny says the rule of thumb when deciding what to wear is to not stress too much about it: “…avoid all white dresses and jeans (assuming the dress code doesn’t specifically call for either).”
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Complaints about the dress code
“Wedding attire is becoming more and more diverse, so it can be difficult to know exactly how to dress up for it, but if you put in the effort, I think the bride and groom won’t care so much about what you’re wearing – they have other things to do…” says Jenny.
However, please refrain from coming in shorts and sneakers. Dress code Require formal or black-tie attire, and don’t complain about other people’s attire just because they broke the rules. I know not everyone cares about dressing up, but you should at least respect the couple’s dress code requirements, especially if they decide to invite you.
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Hot take: Allowing your child to scream or cry uncontrollably
I love kids and I think they can be really amazing. but…A wedding may not be the best place for children. Children are generally more emotionally impulsive than we are, so when they feel like they’re going to explode, they’re going to explode, whether we like it or not. While adults often know how to sit still for 45 minutes to an hour, that’s too much to ask of a small child.
If you can’t find a babysitter or your child is a guest, try to calm them down. If your child starts crying during the ceremony or speeches, go to another room or area or somewhere else. No one will be mad at you for being sad; they will be mad because you didn’t do anything about it.
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Too drunk
We get it: you’re looking for a reason to celebrate and love the option of an open bar, but if you know that drinking alcohol makes you prone to emotional outbursts — whether that means crying uncontrollably, getting angry, or even having an upset stomach while on the dance floor — proceed with caution.
For brides and grooms who are afraid of such a situation, The Gilchrist CollectionHe suggests making sure you stock up on plenty of mocktails for your guests, and also suggests that “opting for a booze-free wedding can have a positive impact on your budget and avoid potential disasters caused by drunk guests.”
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Newlyweds in front of wedding photo
We know you want to share a recap of your weekend and the event with your social media followers, but don’t post about the wedding before the bride and groom have actually posted, especially if there’s a “no cell phones” policy. No one is trying to take away from your fun, but the bride and groom have put a lot of time and effort into coordinating this event and may just want the world to know their vision first.
However, if the couple is okay with it, then post it.
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Request songs you don’t want played at the reception
Some couples are being sensitive because they might not want their grandparents to know that they can sing every line of Cardi B and Megan Thee Stallion’s “WAP.” Or maybe they’re just annoyed by a particular song that seems corny. Whatever the reason, it doesn’t really matter; if the couple says no, just don’t do it.
This is not the time to be pranking by requesting a song that’s on the “don’t play” list. If you want to play something, check with the newlyweds to gauge their mood.
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Propose right after the wedding ceremony or at the reception
Proposing at someone else’s wedding may seem romantic, but it doesn’t always work out that way, which is understandable if you’ve asked for permission beforehand. Golden Bachelor of the moment — but some people make impulsive decisions when their adrenaline gets going and just go for it without thinking about how it will affect the couple who are there to celebrate in the first place.
All we can say is just stop.
What’s the worst habit you’ve seen from guests at a wedding? Let me know in the comments!
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