Bad behavior spirals out of control. On social media, being mean is rewarded with likes and shares.
During Congressional Oversight Hearings, three female members of Congress confused themselves with the issue. mean girls franchise. This hearing showed how grown-up elected individuals are negatively impacting the productivity that the public is supposed to pay for and damaging their reputations and status.
May is Mental Health Awareness Month. There are many terrible habits out there, but here are three.
indifference
Do you know someone who doesn’t care at all? Apathetic people who lack concern for others make little effort to act in accordance with their own agency and functional role, or appear disinterested in making positive things happen.
Apathy is often the opposite of empathy and is an indifference to people and the circumstances around them. It’s the emptiness caused by depression, bipolar disorder, schizophrenia, Parkinson’s disease and Alzheimer’s disease that sadly makes life seem devoid of emotion. There is little desire for new experiences, learning, and meeting different people.
Extreme apathy leads to apathy and is seen in psychotic disorders, bipolar disorder, persistent depression, traumatic brain injury, post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD), and dementia.
During the pandemic, caregivers encouraged disengaged loved ones to engage in conversations, puzzles, reading, and mentally stimulating activities. Some people are able to realize their indifference and change course, but not actively.
solution: Empathy is important and results in satisfying relationships.
Self-care, lifestyle changes, goal setting, and active activities can reduce apathy toward the situation and increase an individual’s agency and ability to relate to others.
Symptoms such as being unable to get out of bed, not bathing or grooming yourself, or refusing to participate in phone calls or emails may indicate a decline in dopamine, the neurotransmitter responsible for reward, results, and motivation. There is a gender. If others are making your life come true more than you think, this requires therapy.
passive aggressive gaslighting
Passive aggression involves expressing negative emotions indirectly rather than addressing the problem openly and honestly. It is the disconnect between what is said and what is done, the resistance shown through holding back, constant sarcasm, and stonewalling.
Passive-aggressive behavior involves sabotage, so there’s a lot of so-called “set-up.” For example, refusing to change or participate so that co-workers or family members have to accept excuses that their behavior was erratic. Now, fingers are being pointed at him and blame is being thrown at him while the passive aggressor rides the non-committal fence of silence to escape responsibility. Of course, they also learn to express difficult emotions that elude maturity and work through conflict rather than avoiding it.
Because passive-aggressiveness overlaps with narcissistic traits, false stories are fabricated and twisted to distort the perceptions and memories of others. If you are the victim, you may have years of experience trusting and caring for someone or something, but when gaslighting occurs, the passive aggressor destabilizes that belief. It can ignite or blow up your own belief system in favor of the reversed scenario of doing so.
Enter alternative facts. The motive is hidden. Mixed messages. You are doubting the perception. Even if a framework of beliefs forms over time, it can unravel. Be wary of backhanded compliments. For example, “I don’t like most of what you do. Actually, I don’t like you that much, but I like you.” Would that make sense if someone told you angrily?
Even if you disagree politely, even if you’re being proactive and considerate, you can be targeted and your tone policed. Gaslighters are not good listeners.
Believing Gaslit’s information may lead to isolation from family and friends who will correct the truth or support a positive opinion that has been flipped to fit a fabricated script. A chaotic reality makes you question what you once held dear. Cognitive dissonance, we call it.
Solution when gas lit: We celebrate open and honest dialogue. Stay calm, resist defensiveness, and don’t cower in discomfort. If you are insulted, ask directly what they meant by what they said. This puts responsibility on them while you are being kind. If your utmost civility encounters more insidious remarks, try to separate the issue from the person. Don’t glorify brutality or take the bait.
Help for gaslighting passive attackers: Ask for what you want without getting into anyone’s feelings. Understand that things don’t always go your way. Let go of your desire to be in control. Learn to follow other opinions and preferences. Aside from self-sabotage, you might just get the approval and admiration you actually wanted.
anger
“There is not enough happiness for everyone.” It is the infuriating mindset of people who compare, contrast, and get frustrated when others succeed, as if there is something wrong with their lives.
Sometimes something happens that excites you. Your co-worker got the sole honor of being unfairly ignored, something you spent months working together on. fair? No. Is that humiliation worth months of frustration? no.
Would most siblings be happy if your sister added new paint and accents to the new house? Yes, except for the ones who are outraged.
Enter the comparison. A desire to surpass. Envious people, especially when destructive narcissistic traits are present, see satisfied people as worthless and inferior, writes Editor-in-Chief Nina W. Brown.in Understanding Narcissists: How to Deal with Destructive People in Your Life. “All positive things should come to them.”
Obviously, this strains relationships. People begin to avoid envious people who perceive other people’s achievements as personal slights and insults.
solution: Cognitive behavioral therapy improves mild to moderate resentment, negative self-talk, and belief structures. If therapy teaches you to question your resentment and challenge your irrational beliefs, your anger may decrease. The accolades, awards, and glorious events are countless. If one person experiences happiness, it does not diminish the happiness of others.
Holding grudges against others creates inner turmoil and prevents important connections that many people need. Bitterness eats away at the beholder. Stop doubling down on your jealousy. But admit it and ask for help.
Researchers have discovered 15 ways hidden emotions can impair a person’s health.According to the authors, these include increased levels of C-reactive protein, cortisol, and adrenaline, decreased immune and reproductive function, risk of periodontitis, weight gain, heart disease, premature aging, anxiety and depression. Overcoming passive-aggressiveness.
With important elections this year, we must recognize apathy, gaslighting, and resentment. They corrode governance, the workplace, and our personal lives.
Copyright © 2024 Lorian Oberlin, Mississippi
